Speaker: Michelle Anthony
Title: The Spiritually Formed Family: Beyond Good Behavior and Chore Charts
Intro: Beyond Good Behavior
- Sometimes we can think we are getting it right if we are just not sinning anymore or sinning less.
- We must recognize that sinning less is not what we are striving for. We must strive to follow Jesus.
- We all want the “abundant life” that Jesus promised, but often we don’t know how to acheive it.
1. Striving for the Abundant Life
- What is it?
- A relationship with God
- Understanding who is in control of our lives
- A “spiritually formed family” understands that God is the director of our lives and we are just playing a part.
2. Taking Over Control
- Relinquishing control is one of the hardest spiritual disciplines of our time because so much of life says that we are in control.
- “I gave in and admitted that God was God.” -C.S. Lewis
- The Grand Illusion
3. Families try to achieve the “abundant life” on their own and in their own power.
- Parenting styles
- You know what is right.
- Everything is done the way you want it or you do it yourself
- Kids don’t understand that you make all their decisions for their own good.
- The world is dangerous…period!
- Kids often end up self-doubting, driven to perfection and struggle with emotional/physical issues.
- Live vicariously through your child’s life
- Everyone else is competition
- Your child can’t waste a second
- Childhood is overrated, start getting ready for college now!
- Your needs are more important than your child’s
- You love being the center of attention
- Your kids end up avoiding you in adulthood
- You want to give kids all that you didn’t have.
- Discipline is exhausting and so you don’t do it.
- Best Friend
- Your child becomes your junior companion.
- You rely on your child for emotional and social support.
- Choose your child over your spouse.
- Self-esteem Killer
- Life is tough so you make it tough on your child.
- Criticize to control your child’s ego.
- No praise given.
- Don’t encourage your child’s interests.
- You work many hours to provide for your child.
- Your children learns to fend for themselves.
- Your babysitter practically raises your child.
- You deny emotional bonding so time away is easier.
4. Spiritually Formed
- Recognize that your child has been entrusted to you by God and you need His guidance to raise them.
- You live in a sinful world but want to put God’s character on display in all situations.
- You know that there is something bigger than controlling your child’s behavior…faith formation.
- You seek to grown spiritually yourself, knowing that the “overflow” of this will have a great impact on your child.
- Your kids often end up: knowing God, loving others, living a life of meaning, recognizing that this world is not home.