I have been enjoying re-reading “Shepherding a Child’s Heart” by Tedd Tripp. It is a very challenging book that I would highly recommend to all parents. Previously I shared some quotes from chapters 1-3 and chapters 4-6. Here are some of my favorites from chapters 7-9.
“We cannot be indifferent to methodology. Biblically, the method is as important as the objectives.”
“Our culture does not provide us with biblical models. Here, as in the area of goals, we must identify and reject the non-biblical approaches that vie for our attention. Biblical goals require a biblical approach–only godly methodology will bring glory to God.”
“The expediency of dealing with behavior rather than the heart means that deep needs within the child are ignored.”
“A biblical approach to children involves two elements that you weave together. One element is rich, full communication. The other is the rod.”
“Your objective in communication must be to understand your child, not simply to have your child understand you.”
“Your first objective in correction must not be to tell your children how you feel about what they have done or said. You must try to understand what is going on inside them.”
“Children need communication designed to inspire and fill with hope and courage.”
“Sometimes a child needs to be brought into conformity with a standard. Correction remedies something wrong. Correction gives your child insight into what is wrong and what may be done to correct the problem.”
“A rebuke censures behavior. Sometimes a child must experience your sense of alarm, shock, and dismay at what he has done or said.”
“[Entreaty] is communication that is earnest and intense…It is the earnest pleading of a father or mother who, understanding his child, the ways of God, and the extremity of the moment, is willing to bare his soul in earnest pleading for his child to act in wisdom and faith.”
“Instruction is the process of providing a lesson, a precept, or information that will help your children to understand their world.”
“Warnings put us on guard regarding a probable danger. A warning is merciful speech…A warning faithfully alerts us to danger while there is still time to escape unharmed.”
“Teaching is the process of imparting knowledge. Teaching is causing someone to know something.”
“Our most penetrating insights into our children will often come as they pray. Understanding what they pray and how they pray is often a window into their souls.”
Which quote do you find the most meaningful or challenging? Leave your thoughts in the comment section!